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Good News for You

12/25/2020

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On the afternoon of Christmas Eve, I slipped into the restroom at the Dallas Fort Worth airport between flights. After washing my hands, I noted the custodian standing nearby, so as is my custom, I slowed down to make eye contact, smile, and thank her for her labors. However, when my eyes connected with hers, I became startled by the depth of sadness and grief she could not conceal. It was so unnerving, I had to catch my breath, quickly slipping past her after a cursory greeting.

Scenarios flooded my mind— who has she lost? What does this year represent for her? Is she alone this Christmas? Does she have a disabled child? Is she a caregiver? What are her fears? I found myself wishing I had an extra hundred dollar bill tucked away I could slip into her hand, but I did not. And her pain seemed untouchable, almost cheapened by suggesting mere cash could allay it. But I was grasping, wishing I had a way to help. I kept walking, haunted by the glimpse into her soul. I do not always know what to do, say or even pray.

​This is a hard year for many. Too hard.

As I post my holiday greetings and pictures of family, I am acutely aware many are struggling, some feeling utterly alone.

​Many are aware God appeared on earth clothed in flesh, his coming providing mankind a model to live by. Others may realize Jesus came as a man without sin in order to pay the price for the wrong each of us have done, qualified to do so by His own perfection. He makes forgiveness possible. A just God requires accountability; a loving God bore the price for it Himself on a cross.

But few recognize the purpose of Jesus’ miraculous appearance was to restore us to God relationally, so we could live in union with our Creator, a good, good, God.

Union. Bliss. Intimacy.

These are not words we typically hear applied to the Christian faith, and yet, this is the purpose and goal of Christ’s work upon the Earth: to destroy the works of the evil one (who labors to isolate man from God), to speak the Truth of reconciliation and connection with God, and to restore mankind to His side as companions. He calls us friend!

This is the Good News.

No matter what circumstances we face, He will never leave us or forsake us. He is so committed to us, His people are inscribed on the palms of His hands.

I thought you might need some good news as we end out 2020 and enter a new year, not alone after all.

Happy New Year!
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What’s Wrong with the Church?

12/11/2020

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Stop right there. We are asking the wrong question. How about what is right with the church? Think back to all the ways your church experience was life giving for you. The people you met whom you love to this day. The kindness you encountered there, the generosity, the times you genuinely experienced God. 

While we may feel it our responsibility to condemn the church and its leadership for all the ways it has failed us or others, perhaps our role could be to spot all the ways our church got it right, and verbalize those, openly celebrating the demonstration of God through His church? He is the One with the right to judge, and even so, “God did not send his Son into the world to judge and condemn the world, but to be its Savior and rescue it!” (John‬ ‭3:17‬ ‭TPT‬‬) Jesus puts us in right relationship with God, our connection with Him transforming us from the inside out. Because each of us are in process, so is the church. 

Our churches, either as institutions or as a collective of Believers, certainly do not get everything right. As parents we have all had ample occasions we cringed over things our children said or did, but we never abandoned our love or admiration for those same children. We correct them, maintaining strong faith in who they are as majestic little human beings worthy of esteem. 

Scripture speaks of the washing of the water of the Word of God. (Ephesians 5:26) Indeed, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17 ESV) “Being equipped for every good work”, is in expression of good hearts!   

Jesus modeled for His disciples washing one another’s feet. I cannot wash your feet without getting low in humility first. With attentive love, in celebration of your good heart holding in my own heart all the ways you have “got it right”, I can be truly in position to apply the cleansing word to you. Bowing, let us join the Psalmist in prayer, 

Father, Jesus, Holy Spirit, 
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Without Your revelation-light, how would I ever detect the waywardness of my heart? Lord, forgive my hidden flaws whenever You find them. Keep cleansing me, God, and keep me from my secret, selfish sins; may they never rule over me! For only then will I be free from fault and remain innocent of rebellion. So may the words of my mouth, my meditation-thoughts, and every movement of my heart be always pure and pleasing, acceptable before Your eyes, my only Redeemer, my Protector-God. ‭‭(Psalms‬ ‭19:12-14‬ ‭TPT‬‬)

In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen. 

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    Two of our three children have Tourette's Syndrome as well as a few other co-morbidities, inherited neuropsychiatric disorders. I'm still happily married, love life and want to share encouragement bringing hope, humor and insight into the process of raising children who are different. 

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