I do not like the term disability. I prefer "other abled". What if a child were born tone deaf into a fictional society where language was based upon the discernment and production of pitch? That child would be profoundly communication disabled. But place that same child into American culture and there is no longer any disability! Only when one stands in front of him during a church worship service is his lack even an annoyance!
Disability is contextual. For our children who struggle, let's change their context! Create environments where they can thrive. We shift to focus our attentions on what they CAN do, and their successes are based on their abilities.